Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

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There’s more to life than loving someone. But being single can feel like a death sentence. Why does being alone = being lonely And why do we stop working on ourselves when we’re in a relationship I will not be with someone who doesn’t take care of themselves, ie. physical, emotional, spiritual, health

Book Genre: Health, Love, Mental Health, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Philosophy, Psychology, Relationships, Self HelpWhether you’ve embraced the advice in Single on Purpose or are just discovering Kim’s ideas, 31 Days of Single on Purpose can help you transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth filled with memories, deep work, play, forgiveness, and freedom. No one really wants to “date themselves.” But all of us, at some point, need to be single—on purpose. After a series of failed relationships and a painful divorce, John Kim realized he had never truly been on his own. He knew that to move forward, he had to build a relationship with himself, to embark on a journey from alone and lonely to alone and fulfilled.

Lumia is an immersive life coach certification for impact-driven people to launch a meaningful coaching business. I pro a ly should have realized that an author that calls himself the "Angry Therapist" would be way too negative for me. He was. Healthy used to mean going to the gym for a couple hours and lifting weights. Today, healthy means so much more to me. Healthy means a good balanced diet. But being okay with a donut once in a while. Healthy means therapy to process shit. Healthy means quality time with friends. Healthy means cheat days. Healthy means cutting negative people out of my life. Surrounding myself with people who accept me and champion my story. Healthy means connecting, accepting, and loving my body. But to also practice discipline and push my body further than I think I can. Healthy means to sweat daily. Healthy means great sex that makes my blood flow and my heart race. Healthy means to stretch. Health means to distance myself from the thoughts that drain me and throw me into yesterday. Healthy means to stop future trippin’. Healthy means giving myself what I need. Allowing myself to feel. Healthy means being kind to myself. Healthy means drawing boundaries. Healthy means feeding my brain. Constantly. Healthy means practicing kindness, forgiveness, and gratitude. Healthy means meditation. Healthy means to get outside and feel the sun on my face. Sand on my toes. Healthy means a gas tank in between my legs. Healthy means naps. Healthy means self-care. Healthy is a lifestyle. If you’re single and you want to make it about you again. Or maybe for the first time. The time is now. Sped through this one and thoroughly enjoyed listening on Audible. Also believe this is applicable for those already in relationships, like I am, or in any walk in life. Since I’m already a follower of John’s podcasts, it was comforting to hear him read through this self help book and enlightening to hear more nuggets of his personal journey & life lessons that he wove into this book. Very humanizing and enjoyed his vulnerability and openness. Few takeaways:In this episode, Dr. Bradley Bond shares his research and expert knowledge on parasocial relationships and the psychology of media with the SOP audience. Specifically he explores with Dr. Nina Polyné our perceptions of TV characters, and how this might relate to our social networks while being single. He also expands on how TV narratives can be helpful for marginalized communities (e.g., LGBTQ, elderly). Additionally, they explore why we get so wrapped up in celebrity lives, and at times, we tend to feel similar emotions of those we follow on social media when big life shifts occur (makeups and breakups). Finally, Dr. Brad offers his wisdom on how to live your best life while single, and if the shows we watch on TV influence the attractions we may have on potential dates. Along with his role as a professor, speaker and business consultant, he is also incredibly creative! He shares in the episode what led him to pursue a life of purpose-driven work, and he and Dr. Nina reflect on their 20 year + friendship. As a entry level worker who hasn't been in many relationships, this book is a pleasing requirement for defining the state of being single. Kim has gone on to help thousands of clients find their own unique way to break free of expectations and finally live their truth. With Single on Purpose, Kim takes his signature no-BS "self-help in a shot glass" approach as he shares his own singlehood story and shows readers how to own their shit, break their patterns, and find a grounded sense of self. I’ve been single. Many times. I’ve struggled with loneliness. Rejection. Not believing I was desirable. I’ve tried dating myself again and again, and it was bullshit. The truth is, we’re humans and we’re not meant to do life alone. We want to love someone. And that’s okay. We’re biologically built that way. What’s not okay is losing ourselves because we don’t have someone to love. Or losing ourselves in the person we’ve chosen to love. Lindsay interviews Candace St. John, an epidemiologist and public health specialist with additional training in pediatric sleep and lactation support, who helps parents cut through the noise and use science in combination with their own intuition to inform their parenting decisions. In this episode we discuss a lot of the myths and truths around infant development and needs, including hot topics like sleep training, breastfeeding, responsive parenting, post-partum, early attachment, screen time, pregnancy and birth, trauma in early childhood and more!

This book is also for anyone who is currently in a relationship but the dynamic has changed. You’ve drifted. Grown apart. The in love has turned to in lost, and neither of you know yourself anymore. There’s lots of finger-pointing, sex is scheduled or doesn’t happen at all, and you’ve both lost touch with the individuals you were when you came together. You might have complaints about your partner but are coming to realize that it’s not really about them. It’s not about changing anyone or fixing the relationship. You have no more energy for that. It’s about starting with you.Journal questions that don’t feel like “journaling,” focusing on brief, direct, and honest answers to help you know yourself Again, I gave it 2 stars, not 1. I do think there is value in here for you if you've never done work on your relationship with yourself and or you have had issues in your relationships.

I really wanted to like this book. It's a workbook made to be written in so I definitely recommend not getting the ebook. The motivation to write this book came from coaching thousands of people in the last decade who experienced severe depression because they were single. Many of them had successful careers. Many of them had amazing friends. But because they had no one to kiss in the morning and do nothing with on a Friday night, they saw themselves as failures. They internalized the idea of not having a partner as being defective. Most had been in nothing but shitty, toxic, lopsided relationships, and yet being single was worse. They figured something was wrong with them, and they came to me to find out what that was. A lot of them were in their thirties or forties, and they felt like time was running out. They felt the sand in the hourglass draining as they lost more and more hope. So what does that look like to make it about you? Here are three things I did after my divorce that repositioned me and allowed me to become a better version of myself. Kim is raw and vulnerable, sharing things most professionals in his field probably wouldn't share about themselves. His insecurities, his flaws, things he has tried, desired and abused that are taboo or untraditional. It is refreshing because it reminds you, we are all so human. Lindsay interviews Paul Chamberlain, a certified crisis advocate and coach, husband and father, and the creator and host of the podcast Smart Funny Tortured. After suffering from over a decade of undiagnosed chronic illnesses and an inauthentic self he found himself struggling with profound depression and at times suicidal that led to separation from his family and near bankruptcy. Today, thanks to an abundance of love and grit, as well as a blend of traditional therapy, coaching, integrative medicine, and holistic lifestyle changes; he now lives a happy balanced life with his wife/business partner, their two kids and the beloved chaos bundle of pets. He now helps others shift their relationship with shame, find their true essence, and get cozy with the better parts of their Darker Angels.I’ve had hundreds of sessions just like this. Different stories, but all the same. It’s why I wrote this book. We don’t know how to be single. It’s a journey most do not embark on. Dr. Bradley Bond is an Associate Professor and Chair of the Department of Communication at the University of San Diego. His research examines the psychology of media, specifically how entertainment media influences audiences’ attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. He has consulted for corporations including Disney, Warner Brothers, and Playstation; and his award-winning research has been covered by outlets including Time, NPR, and the Washington Post. The truth is, you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. Sure, a relationship can bring you lots of joy. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship—we’re all human. But a relationship is not required for you to be happy. It’s not the only way to find joy in your life. Your happiness isn’t contingent on loving someone else. That’s something that’s been programmed into you by movies, advertising, social norms, social media, and old blueprints.